Recently I tweeted that the tightness of the clothes you wear can reveal a whole lot about the person you are. Definitely a bold generalization, but I feel that there is definitely truth to this, so let’s start by defining exactly what TIGHT is:
TIGHT CLOTHES: When the garment you are wearing causes some normally unpronounced part of your body to become pronounced, or creates creases and folds in parts of your body that never existed prior to wearing the garment.
*Of course pardon is given to persons who have difficulty finding clothes that fit due to body parts that they were blessed with, or didn’t ask for. I mean somebody had to get Great Granny’s breastissists and Denton’s dreams of a big penis came true…So maybe she can’t wear that fitted shirt, and maybe he can’t wear those super skinny jeans…Or the problem is that maybe they can, and they actually do -__-
So clearly Denton and Great Granny Boobies had a mom and dad that told them they can do anything in life that they want. I’m all for the advice, but because you CAN do it, doesn’t mean you SHOULD do it. And my advice to them are a few indications that their clothes may be too tight:
1. When you take them off that tingling feeling you had in your hands and feet goes away? Then they may be too tight. In life we call that pins and needles. In medicine we call that paraesthesia, aka a sensation you get when your circulation is being cut off…
2. If the line caused by the elastic takes more than 30 minutes to go away? That item may just be a smidgen tight.
3. If I can tell the gender of your baby without asking you…That top may not be maternity…Too tight.
4. If under any circumstance the sceptre and the crown jewels, or the toes of the camel are making an appearance outside of the palace or desert respectively, then your bottoms are too tight!
5. If the bottom of your shirt that isn’t supposed to be belly skin is just touching or not touching your belt, or you get that armpit sweat mark within 5 minutes of trying on the shirt? It may be a tad small.
Jonas brother to the extreme right?? Pants. Too. Tight.
So to take this oh so deep conversation to the next level, inquiring minds want to know, ‘Why wear something if it’s so darn uncomfortable, cuts off circulation and works as population control?’ My take on it is:
1. THE PERCEPTION PROBLEM: Some people definitely see themselves very differently from the world sees them, so fitted for them may be super tight for me. Through my eyes I see ‘Madea’, while you are seeing Miss Jamaica body beautiful :/
2.THE WEIGHT LOSS JOURNEY: So you lost a lot of weight and you figured well now I can wear dem tight up tight up shirt dem weh mi couldn’t wear for years. I commend you on the weight loss, but that doesn’t mean that your clothes can’t take the journey with you. This ain’t monopoly and you are not gonna get to skip to Park Street. There are sizes between size 16 and size 6…find them.
3.THE CONFIDENCE THING: That A/X shirt doesn’t exist in your size, and you know that, but your beer drinking bahind thinks that you should wear it, because you want to wear a name brand. The solution is simple…DON’T WEAR IT. There comes a time when you just have to retire to Tommy polos and call it a day.
The take home lesson today is that you should really try stuff on in the store, maybe even get a 2nd opinion, especially if your tight meter needs calibrating. Fact is your fashion offenses may not cause a death or anything, but the FASHION POLICE doesn’t like those offenses. So before you SQUEEZE your life away…YOUNG GYAL WEAR YU SIIIIIIIIIIIIIIZE, YOUNG BWOY WEAR YU SIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIZE…
A few days ago I saw a woman who is a family friend, and we got to talking. Some way into the conversation she asked, “Mario, are you working now?”. A few years ago that would probably have meant nothing to me, but the English language is a powerful tool, and we convey so many emotions and subconscious thoughts based on each and every word that we use. She could have asked, “Mario where do you work?”, “Mario, what do you do for work?”, but instead she asked if I’m working NOW. The former questions imply her uncertainty of my work status, but the latter surely implies to me that I wasn’t working or definitely had stopped at some point…Which in my mind is not the case.
Still saddens me that people perceive that being a musician is so much fun in the sun all the time. Don’t get me wrong, I have fun when I’m creating and performing music, but there is so much work involved in the business of music that many don’t even have an idea about. It is just sad that musicians are out there, in the minds of some people, just NOT WORKING everyday. Sad that me telling her I work at a hospital eased her nerves a bit because I have a REAL JOB. Sad that even if I worked at that hospital one day a week it wouldn’t really matter, because I actually have a REAL JOB, one day a week. All in all just a sad outlook.
We need to change our perceptions about the jobs and the things that people do to make a living and that make them happy. I’ve never stopped working. I’m always at work, and I don’t want anyone to get that twisted. Whether I’m paid in cash or by a new email on a mailing list, a like on a Facebook page, or even a retweet…I am working, and working really hard. Thanks to my humble and supportive fans who recognize that and who take the time to actually see what I’m doing before judging what I do. You are my payback.
Don’t let anyone’s standard or perception of what you do determine your standard. You determine your own standards and successes and bask in them and celebrate them as you achieve them. Keep working hard, and don’t get caught up in the perceptions of the ignorant.
I must say I’m truly grateful for finding my passion in music. So many exist without even an inkling as to what they could do in life that would make them happy whilst ALWAYS doing it. So to know what I love, and to be making strides doing it, is a blessing a million times over.
This passion is inextricably tied to appreciating and valuing the life that we have. I have had a few friends who have died over the years, both young and old, and it really makes you stop to think about why you so aggressively pursue some of the things you pursue.
If you died tomorrow, what value would the previous days you spent working overtime on something you hated or disliked? Probably not that much. I’m not saying that life should be some unrealistic fairy tale, but if you are not enjoying yourself while living, and what you are doing feels like it’s draining your life energy, then is what you are doing now really worth it?