So it would seem like this week, ‘the Social Networks’ were out to get me. I kinda felt like angry Chris Brown on Good Morning America…about to smash my bedroom mirror, struggle to rip off my v-neck under shirt and run out into the cold streets of Brooklyn, screaming (not a good look; wish you kept ur cool Chris). Thankfully unlike C Breezy I had a little bit more control.
A while back a friend of mine told me she was depressed sometimes when she read her Twitter feed or people’s Facebook statuses. At the time, and with my frequent FB use, as well as my possible running for “Whore of Twitter” and sheer closeness to knocking Zuckerberg out of his spot, I really didn’t understand what she was going through. Well this week really just reminded me of how and why she felt this way:
Turned out my friend was just tired of people’s need for attention, which is kinda what FB and Twitter have become. Dragged under the poor umbrella of social networking, it really has become people screaming “Look at me…I’m working out”, “I’m losing weight”, “I can sing”, “I’m so cool”. I mean I’m guilty too. I post YouTube video covers, which I think is part of my job as an artist, but some peopler really do go in deeper than they need to.
Seems like we have lost control of ourselves because our new instant outlet, right at our finger tips, and we have failed to see that we are hurting others with out constant public CYBER-MASTURBATION. Not to say I don’t care about how many situps you did, or the 5 songs you wrote last night, but just don’t forget the fat kid that hates exercise or the other kid that just keeps writing bad songs. If I read some of this stuff on a cold, rainy, low self-esteem night, and by chance was perched on a chair by a noose, you can well imagine it would all be over. So folks sometimes you should just masturbate alone and leave the cyber out…that was kinda what the word was meant to express.
So you and your ex are still friends on FB. Being civil an all dat jazz…really sweet. You and I very well know tho that its irks you to see that picture of them with their new special somebody, or them hanging with the friend(s) that you introduced them to when you were together. The friend that now talks to them more than they talk to you. Arrrrrrrghhhhhhh!!! As much as you try not to see their status updates, they just pop up in your news feed (the one that sometimes you wish you never had, but you love to read so much)…it’s just a lot. Sad part is they are probably going through the same thing with your FB profile too, but no one can really say anything…ummph.
THE FRIENDS YOU FELL OUR OF CONTACT WITH
The same applies to these suckers. The friends you drifted away from, but you are really curious about. You kinda wish you could just be cool like you were before, but things changed, and FB is just there to constantly remind you of everything they are doing.
THE FRIENDS YOU WANT TO HAVE
Well let’s be honest, there are some people that just appear to be mad cool, and you really would love to meet them. They are in all these pictures at random social events, looking happy and well-dressed, and you are thinking…I wonder what it would be like if we were friends. I have tonnes of friends, and I am not ashamed to admit that I’ve had a friend crush here and there. For more on friend crushes, read my friend Kadija’s blog (http://dailydosesofdija.blogspot.com/2011/02/friend-love-pt-1-friend-crush.html). It would just be awkward to send them a message cold turkey, and you don’t really want them to think you are a cyber stalker, so you kinda just silently cyber stalk them and hope that one day you may meet them, and they actually are as cool as they look.
RANDOM MESSAGES FROM STRANGERS
I know you will say I have control over my privacy settings, so I shouldn’t complain, but some people write you messages like “You are so cute”, or “Hi how are you? What do you do?”. So hmmm, if you don’t know me, you shouldn’t be asking me about my occupation, especially without telling me a little about yourself, not to mention why you are talking to me in the first place. I feel like I was raised in the old school, but me accepting you as a friend does not license you to ask me anything in a Facebook message. That’s what Formspring is for, and if my occupation or relationship status is not displayed on my profile, then maybe it’s not for the public…ya think?
TAGGING MY PICTURE WITH YOUR NAME
Well as you can see, I am so taken aback by the things people do on these damn networks that I really don’t even care if they read this blog. I guess you need to know at some point that these are things you just don’t do. I probably should have taken this as a compliment, but recently some girl tagged my profile picture with her name. Ok so I added her because I thought she was a fan of my music. And I guess she really was just a fan of my face, and thought she needed to attach her name to it, so she can see it in her profile as a tagged pic of her…whenever she wants. So uummm, who does that??? I shall say no more. I am flattered, but equally weirded out at the same time. I’ve tagged myself in pics from the Olympics when Jamaican atheletes won medals, ahhm maybe in a poster with my name on it, but never have I tagged a hot girl on FB so I could see her as a tagged pic. ??????….????? (Question marks of sheer confusion)
I would just like to say that this blog was not meant to offend anyone specifically, but are the views of M.E. And I know the really smart persons will say, if the networks bother you so much then come off them. And you are right, that is an option. I use them for business so I need em (or i should say I want em), but I will try to make better decisions about who I add as a friend amongst other things. So my friends who are frustrated with the social networks, please step away from the computer and take a breather. Go dance to a cool song, and put your iphone or BB under your bedroom pillow for a few minutes, and just chillax for a bit, because the social networks are bound to drive you crazy if you remain logged in. SMH.
I honestly think I somewhat disliked NY on moving here because it reminded me of the daily struggles of too many people all at once, and everyday, all the time.
The irony is that Jamaica and NY are actually quite similar on the struggle scale of the average person. Many people take public transportation and are just hustling to make a honest dollar, and some not so honest. The truth is that in Jamaica I had been removed for a while from ‘the people’ in almost all facets of life except for work and sometimes music. Sad part is I hadn’t realized, but thought I was so in sync, when really I was in my own world and thought I was in sync.
So on about month 6-7 right now I must say I am so grateful to be here in di streets wid the people of NY, because it has brought life’s realities back to the forefront of my mind, and not just the perception of them or just the observation of them from a distance. In NY it’s always in your face, sitting beside you, walking behind or in front of you. Poverty, persons of various sexual orientations, races, cultures, religions, with different accents, disabilities, issues. In my face and unable to play ignorant to it. I’m sure this year will mature me in ways I can’t imagine…and this only reminds me of the fact that my purpose here is much more than for myself, but to share some of the joys of my reality with others with less joy in theirs.
Take a moment to feel the world and someone else’s reality if u haven’t in a while, for sure it wake you up.
So after a recent performance of mine in NY, a kid came up to me and this was what ensued...
7 y.o. kid:Are you on YouTube
M.E.:Yes. What's your name?
7 y.o. kid:J
M.E.:Let me sign a flyer for you. Did you enjoy the performance?
7 y.o. kid:Yes (nodding head)
So i'm a sucker for kids ya'll, and he wanted to find me on YouTube...it's wrap. This will be my encouragement when I feel like I should never sing again...My day, and probably week has officially been made. Thanks J.
So today I will break the rules and give a beauty queen type answer - There are no bands I hate…I love all music. I can only think of songs that I hate or strongly dislike, but there are no bands I hate. So to day you get the PC answer. More music tomorrow.