“If we realize “our task is unique,” “our doubters are powerless,” “courage is required,” “there are no shortcuts” and “we were born to change the world,” we will most certainly get back on the road to recapturing our collective mojo.”—Edwin Avent. (via kbello)
The smell of old dirt mixed with new dirt mixed with drink stains on the subway floor.
Homie over me in the train is hovering from left to right like he’s bout to spit a rap but he doesn’t say a word and he is listening to no music.
The juveniles beside me use the word “nigga” like a conjuction…”yes nigga no nigga what nigga who nigga?”.
The mariachi band sings their tune in this car and the Motown group sings in another. They have such talent. Is this their only gig? Am I being fooled to think they are broke and hustling? Or do they perform nightly in some upscale bar?
I’m at the point on this train line where designer name brands are visible on your clothing and wearing one coloour in different shades from head to toe is ok, not to mention mismatching patterns.
This city makes me miss my home. A place where mountains are always in sight and the air smells clean. Fruit is abundant and the people are so tangible it sometimes hurts.
That said, the feeling of a random New York coffee shop on the lower east side or the food cart on 53rd street, the energy and presence of shameless individuality can be found no where else like it exists here…I am in new York…and I think I like it now.
So yesterday I wrote an email to a very important person with a very important title. Having written many letters with American culture in mind, I quickly forgot my British protocol. In the Caribbean you must address people as Mr. Ms. or Mrs. Worse if they are a dignitary, then the necessary protocol must be used. I’m essentially calling myself out because I wrote to a very important person of Caribbean decent an called them by 1st name. Take me to the firing range why don’t you. Jokes aside I was rather embarrassed when I was later called by said person and they found it necessary to make it very apparent in their voice message that I was out of hand (by simply correcting me). There are only 2 ways to deal with this, but really one Mario way. So apologies are in order, of course in the most subtle and socially appropriately non-brown nosing way possible.
The interesting irony is I have a title I almost never use unless I in the environment that demands it. As long as your names for me are not ‘dickweed’, ‘rux’, or something just intolerable, you can get away with calling me ‘Mar’ if you’re really close. ‘Mar Mar’ if you must; G; Guttas; MG; haven’t quite gotten to Evon yet. I digress. I don’t care much for titles is my point, but don’t put an ‘s’ on Evon or i will freak out!!
On the topic of use of English, has anyone ever sent you a chat message or an email and said something completely rude or inappropriate? I once challenged every one of those but I’m too grown to care anymore, so I just choose to ignore them, as some of it is just peoples cute way of being inquisitive, jus damn faaas (inquisitive in patois), and I’m intolerant of nuff (again inquisitive in JA; we have a lot of those ppl in the Caribbean, hence the multitude of descriptive words) people. If you want to read go on Wikipedia, I won’t be your next bestseller…so please fall back.
I would love to put in quotations some of the things people have said to me, but unfortunately some of them will read this blog and I will have to hear about it, but persons have done everything from question my sexuality with “Oh, YOU have a girlfriend??”. That one is probably high up on the ones I hate. Maybe I read it wrong. Maybe that quizzical upswing in their voice means “Nah you couldn’t have a girlfriend, you’re too hot and busy, you must either have no time for those, or have such a large harem that you can barely satisfy each of those women”…except no, you thought I was gay, couldn’t contain yourself and thought it was appropriate to make it known. Smh. People like you piss me off and if it was socially appropriate to pimp slap people like y’all, you would have long been slapped.
I am clearly now writing from a place of rage now, because I’ve had a life of people being rude and inappropriate to me and I’ve been the bigger person about it, because I choose to have standards.
This blog I will end now by saying, please think about what you say before you say it folks. It’s not rocket science. Facebook and Twitter should be your practicing grounds. I can only say these bits of social media have only helped me to curb my verbal diarrhoea, as I think now before my 700+ followers or 4000+ FB friends read what I’ve said. Some of you should look into curbing your verbal diarrhoea too!
Again another one that made no sense to me as a child. Then you grow up and realize that the song is a gay anthem or just a song that when you hear it you can’t stop laughing. I find it funny. Guess it makes sense that the WEATHER GIRLS would sing a song about raining men. Hilarious!
Now that the sexually ambiguous stuff is out of the way, lemme just say for years I thought the lyrics to this song were “Everytime you go away, you take a piece of MEAT with you”. Ok I know you are laughing, but I heard MEAT, and I heard it every time. So this song was either written by Fred Flinstone or your girlfriend is a crack ho, and sells underpriced meat from your fridge for crack money, or it could be about a stray dog that somehow knows how to get to the meat section of your fridge. Whatever it is, the word surely wasn’t MEAT, and as a singer, I’m just glad I learned this before doing a YouTube cover of this song…he heee!
4. Why my parents sometimes closed their bedroom door, which was usually open
TMI - so this I will say no more on as well.
5. How Sausages were prepared
"Sausage consists of meat stuffed into the scraped intestines of an animal, frequently the animal it originated from. The intestines are scraped to ensure cleanliness and also to form a thin outer membrane for the sausage which will keep the meat encased. The meat is ground and then forced into the long membrane, which is twisted periodically to form elongated tubes of meat, known as sausages. Modern sausage is sometimes made with artificial casings, but most butchers are able to provide traditional sausage.” - - - This is just kinda gross to be honest.
6. Milli Vanilli
Imma keep it real, I loved me some Milli Vanilli songs…”Bye ba ba bye, bye ba ba bye babay…Don’t forget my number”. I mean they were catchy and fun. I still cannot fathom how 2 men, worse black men, got away with wearing midriff shirts (belly skin in Jamaica), below knee spandex pants (aka tights), and long weaves…And honestly, as much as some people took them for a joke, we were surely eating up that music…The music THAT THEY WEREN’T SINGING. And RIP Rob Pilatus, but i’m sure many less than marketable awesome gospel singers are still upset about this. This was a mess. I hope music never sees another lip-syncing nightmare like this one.
7. That it’s harder to lose weight as an adult
If someone told me this a long time ago, I woulda been on every single high school sports team they created (irrespective of skill level), and probably make up some of my own too. Now I am in the gym on a daily basis trying to fight against my slowing metabolism. Some days I eat like a freaking rabbit and I doubt that six pack I have always wanted will ever see the light of day, but i’m on it like Matlock (younguns, you may need to google this one), and i’m gonna try and win this case.
8. That I will never understand Women
As a dude with many female friends, I had actually thought I had a good idea of what women were all about. Now that I’m older I simply realize that…I DON’T, and probably never will. There is also no more to say on this topic.
9. That musical success can be attained with no talent at all
I would say my list of talentless musicians who are rolling in dough, but as an aspiring musician myself I have learned to respect the hustle of some of these said artists, and also the importance of connections and timing. It’s real, and I’m not gonna complain about it. You can choose to play the game or sit ur bootay tay on the bench with the other bench-warmers.
10. Life is Simpler than it Seems
This 10th one is a big whopper, because there is no way to teach someone that life is easy and that anything you want in life is attainable, and that once you believe you can get it. Maturity will teach you a lot about handling different people and about being nice to people, and about making a ‘hard’ life simple…Well most people learn. Some fundamentals include, 1. Be nice to everyone, 2. Don’t sweat the small stuff, 3. Exercise, 4. Be Positive, 5. Laugh and Dance a lot and 6. Just be yourself.
Of course you know I could write about 50 of these things I never understood, but 10 is enough for now. Thanks for your time :)
Recently, there has been a lot of backlash regarding the portrayal of Black men in Cinema. Some movies, many by Tyler Perry, portray black men in a harsh unsavory light, usually as the bane of some black woman’s existence. I understand both sides of this dynamic. With so many absentee fathers in…
Starting out a very big fan of Tyler Perry plays and initially his films, I went into this movie kinda like a jaded M. Night Shyamalan fan…The 6th Sense blew you away, then Unbreakable was good, then all sort of things started to happen. You just didn’t know if he could still be the driver of that school bus full of your kids. You lost trust, for one reason or another, yet still kept coming back for more, because something tickled you inside making you feel the next time could possibly be as good as the 1st.
I will say it should be safe to read this review, as I hate reviews that tell all the juicy details, so trust me, I will stay away from those, but a little history lesson is good. This movie unlike many Tyler Perry movies is actually an adaptation of a 1974 book of dramatic prose poems, called “For Colored Girls Who Have Considered Suicide When the Rainbow is Enuf”, which also gained critical acclaim as a broadway play. All of this I didn’t know until getting home after the movie and doing my research.
After many cheezy Tyler Perry movies, especially the last few, I really almost didn’t go to this movie, and as I watched this movie I must say it followed suit in parts and was overly dramatic to the point that I thought…why would anyone want to see a movie full of so much sadness, but I left feeling so emotionally mangled that something must of been good about it.
I firmly believe that good message art will evoke emotion out of you, whether it is sadness, sheer joy and jubilation or just frank anger. So I infer that this is good art, because Perry was able to artfully tangle those poems into a script and a movie with a host of strong black female characters, and allow you to connect to each and every one of them. I also knew that if I had felt this way as a man, that women would connect to this movie 10 times more.
Special commendations to Anika Noni Rose and Thandie Newton, who I think gave stellar performances. This movie like all Tyler Perry movies emphasizes the beauty of black women, as they came in different hues and packages, but even at their worse there was beauty in them.
I shall say no more than to go watch it weather in the cinema or if you wait to watch it on DVD. It will at the least provoke some thought. I would say for me the fundamental theme of the movie was that there is often a big disparity between WHAT YOU ARE and WHAT YOU WANT TO BE. That resonated very strongly with me, and I think will with any human being. This also ties into THINGS DON’T ALWAYS SEEM AS THEY ARE. When you see the movie it will all make sense. I wouldn’t say Tyler outdid himself, but definitely good, and definitely watch worthy. I give it 3.5/5 stars.
The last shot is clear and distinct in my mind. It is so vivid that I fear a nightmare. It is the kind of movie that bugs you after you leave the theatre. You left wondering why better has not come some 30 years later. A rinse and repeat of history. A vicious cycle. A complex and layered…
Success is a partnership between thought and action. One without the other will not get you anywhere.
If you think about what you do and how you’ll do it, but do nothing, the result is failure. If you rush into getting it done without putting any thought into it, that will just as surely bring failure.
It’s crucial to put some good, solid thinking into what you wish to do. Be careful, though, not to think yourself out of ever getting it done.
Whatever your objective, it’s absolutely necessary to take action. Yet it is also vital to take appropriate action that is well thought out.
You can think and you can do. Each is challenging in its own way, and yet every valuable thing you’ve ever accomplished has utilized these two skills that you most certainly have.
You have what it takes to reach whatever goal you choose. Think and do, then think some more and do some more, and steadily work your way toward success.
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